My Top 5 Key Lessons Learned from 6 Line

Hi my readers!

If youre new here, heyy. If you’re not, welcome back!!

I am not trying to teach you guys anything, but here are some things I’ve learned on my journey after talking to Mr. 6 line that I am now holding myself accountable to that you can possibly walk away with.

Because why trauma if I can’t pass on my findings?

You do not have to agree with my lessons; it’s just my thinking after meeting this person. If you still need to read about Mr. 6 line, here is the beginning post! If you don’t want to, that’s fine💁🏾‍♀️; read on to see the few lessons I learned while dating a guy that treated me like shit. 👍

1. If the person doesn’t check in about the date, or the day, it’s not happening.

People you date should be so excited to meet you that they will reconfirm with you the day you are meant to meet. They will check in, say the day’s plans, and not leave you guessing.
If there is no action around the date, there’s no motion, unfortunately, just talk and vibes.

2. A talking stage should last around 1-month max!!!!!

I am not talking about texting and going on dates. Conversing with no dates should go up to a month. It could be a month and a half.
Beyond that, a guy needs to mention a date once and follow through because I’ve learned that texting without dates builds up the false idea/image of you as a person in the other person’s mind.
- For instance, the 6 line thought I was this tiny girl in his head despite seeing my face; he created this girl in his head that I wasn’t because he didn’t see me for me and didn’t know what to expect (despite evident photos, but I digress).
Another reason is that because you are texting, there are now more assumptions about how you are in person. My texting personality differs from my in-person vibe in the beginning stage of meeting me because I’m a shy introvert when I first meet someone.
- I have to get to know your vibe before my real vibe comes out, then I start to match who I am over text. Some people don’t like that and some do. In-person is where you can test how well you and this person can vibe outside you guys’ comfort zones, which is behind a phone screen.

3. If a person comments negatively on your body, they’re insecure. RUN

Mr.6 line tried so much to bring my self-image down, but I learned that it was more about his insecurity than mine. He felt unsafe being short and not being in his ideal body, so he projected much of that onto me. So if the person you’re seeing says anything about your body that makes you feel bad or off, RUN and know that it’s themselves they’re saying that about.
To my plus-size girlies, the photos do show your size. People just choose to be delusional.

4. A show-off is lacking in something.

If someone needs to be flashy, they usually don’t have the thing they’re flashing about. Mr. 6 line wanted me to see him as the cool sneakerhead with it all when he didn’t have it all in reality. He returned every new sneaker he had.
- Personally, I prefer someone that doesn’t show off with something they don’t have. I like them to show off something they have. He’d try to show off his singing talent, which I didn’t mind because that’s who he is. But the sneakerhead who is big bossing? That is not him, for sure. Genuity and humbleness are attractive to me and he lacked that. Maybe he wanted to manifest those sneakers in his life.
- That’s cute, but it’s not for me. ( It could be for you, but for me, get somebody else to do it). Someone I’ve dated recently reconfirmed this lesson for me, which you will get to meet later down the line. But, the takeaway here is a personal one; again, someone flashing materialistic things is not for me.
After diving into why his being flashy annoyed me, I came to the realization about what truly bothered me about this situation. I would rather have someone who lets me know they’re struggling or maybe even saving than someone who just pretends for me.
- I don’t mind a partner that has less than me; I just rather have a partner that is real with me about something they’re going through so that I am more understanding at the beginning around what’s happening in their lives after months together.
- But, I truly value someone’s open communication and vulnerability.

5. If you don’t find the person attractive, DO NOT waste their time or yours.

I think this lesson went both ways. I didn’t find him attractive, but I still went for it, and he didn’t see me as beautiful either, but he still went for it. Don’t waste their time or yours.
- My 6 months could’ve been wasted on other men who would’ve valued my beauty and taken me out, maybe even slut me out properly before a lockdown. Time is precious; don’t waste it for validation from someone who doesn’t even see your inner or outer beauty.
Side note from me currently; I love being delusional in dating (always), but if the delusion is causing more harm than shits and giggles, please walk away before it gets toxic. Attention is only fun when you aren’t working hard for it from someone who’s a 1.5 in your book.

Overall, after him, I started developing some form of a standard and finding out where my self-worth was. During this stage, my past self had yet to discover what that was, but I looked for it… in other men.

I had more lessons to come my way, and they sure as hell did. I hope my mini-lessons and my story have helped you somehow. Comment to let me know if you can relate to any of this advice or found any of it helpful!

Sincerely,

Marie-Anne