5 Key Lessons From My 6 Month Situationship
ROMANCE
5/15/20263 min read
Dear Wanderers,
As shared before, I learned 10 lessons from the 6 Line, but here are the top 5 you should truly take away from my story.
Do Not Settle For Disrespect
If a man disrespects your body, your family, your character, your values, your presence, and so on, don't let it slide.
The saying “If he is mean to you, that means he likes you" is wrong, and I wish we would stop spreading that false narrative because it’s harmful to us as we get into the pursuit of human connection.
A person who truly likes and cares about you won’t disrespect you. Think of yourself as one of your dear friends or loved ones, would you allow them to accept that disrespect from someone?
No, so why should you?
Date Who You Are Attracted To
Do not go for the person you think is ‘okay’. Okay is not enough when dating.
Okay is to confirm something, not for describing someone you would interact with constantly.
When you date the ugly guy, you will turn into the ugly one because they will treat you as if you are ugly.
There is so much resentment when you date someone you are not entirely attracted to.
It hurts the ego, and it just isn’t fun anymore.
Date the person whom you will tell a whole room of people about, not the person you would hide away in a closet if you got the chance.
Understand and Think In Abundance
Something I am currently learning, even now, is that you are never truly lacking.
When dating, you need to think in a balanced abundance mindset. Meaning, don’t think this shitty experience is all you’re gonna get.
Back then, I was thinking, " Well, he’s the best I can get since he’s the only one talking to me consistently,” and that is untrue.
There are other men who will treat me better than this guy was willing to treat me.
When you think there is no other guy who will give you the level of attention the shitty guy you’re talking to is giving, then you’re going to miss out on the abundant amount of guys wanting you.
Do not date out of desperation, but date out of abundance.
Desire for Love is Okay
Something I want to say to my younger self from my current self is that it is okay that you wanted love and thought it was okay to stay in something hard.
LOL, crazy, but it is fine to desire love and connection.
We are human.
If you did not have a desire for love, that’s great for you, but for those of us who do, it is okay.
I hold no shame for you and myself, especially if you stayed in a connection simply for the attention and for the simple fact that you wanted to feel desired.
Pursuing love means facing and begging the wrong person to stay because that’s what comes with seeking connection sometimes.
Seeking love and desiring love has you clouded, but a tip I have within this is to not let the desire of love overtake the standards you have for yourself, and do not let it again disrespect you.
Leave when the desire for love starts to push who you are as a person, out of your core, which brings me to my last lesson.
Do Not Lose Yourself in Pursuit of Love
YOU are who matters most in this world, whether you believe it or not.
Do not let someone shame your body, your personality, and anything that is part of YOU, especially a romantic partner.
Do not allow someone to remove the one thing that matters, which again is YOU.
Love does not come with shame. Love heals shame, actually.
Your body does all this work to keep you alive. Why should you allow someone who isn’t keeping it alive to shame you into insecurity?
People who shame bodies or just shame in general are projecting onto you and making you their vessel of shame.
Are you a vessel for shame or a vessel of yourself that is full of love and care?
Do not allow their shame to turn you into a shame monster that is full of negative characters.
People whose shame you carry push you out of character, which makes you lose who you are at your core.
You are not disgusting at your core.
Do not lose your whimsy because you are incompatible with someone.
Choose yourself more than the pursuit. Remember that.
Those are my key takeaways. I hope one of them stood out to you.
Which line stood out to you the most? Let me know in the comments.
Love yours,
Marie-Anne
