10 Lessons I Learned From the 6 Line

Heyyyyy my wanderers,

Firstly, I want to say that I am not trying to teach you guys anything; I am giving you cautionary advice that a younger me learned.

Here are things I learned from talking to the 6 line that I now hold myself to—take what resonates, or use them to set your own standards.

Because why trauma if I can’t pass on my findings?

Again, you do not have to agree with my lessons; it’s just my thinking after meeting this person.

If you didn’t read about the 6 line, go to the previous posts!

If you don’t want to, that’s fine. The lessons speak for themselves babes.

Read on for the lessons I learned dating a guy who treated me like absolute shit. 👍

Lesson 1: If the person doesn’t check in about the date, the day of, chances are.. it’s not happening.

• A person should be so excited to meet you that they will reconfirm with you the time you’re meeting. They will check in and say the plans of the day, and won’t leave you guessing.

• Whoever initiated the date should be the one checking in, like, “Hey, are we still on for…” because, to be honest, it’s common courtesy and just to make sure you are not wasting your time.

Lesson 2: There should be communication throughout the day about set plans

• This is to make sure you guys are excited about this hangout, date, or whatever you are doing when you are first meeting, because honestly, it keeps the line of communication open, provides reassurance, and shows that this person values your presence.

• I also don't mean that the whole day you are speaking about this date. No. I mean maybe in the morning they text "Can't wait for tonight" and that is the text you get for the morning then the hour before the person can elaborate and check in like "Hey still on?"

• Something about this just works for me because it decreases the anxiety of it all but to be honest your person can still ghost you but hey at least, they remembered something happening LOL.

Lesson 3: Keep the talking stage to a month or two

• I am not talking about texting and going on dates. That is not the talking stage babes.

• I’m talking about texting without mentioning dates or meeting up, which that should go up to a month. Maybe a month and a half to allow grace for busy schedules.

• Beyond that, a guy needs to mention a date once with a planned follow through, because texting without dates builds a false impression of you in the other person's mind.

For instance, the 6-line thought I was this small, tall girl in his head; despite seeing my face, and my profile showing body photos, he created this girl in his head that I wasn’t, because he didn’t actually see me. He saw texting me.

• Another reason is that you are texting; there are now more assumptions about how you are in person. My texting personality is different from my in-person vibe at first because I’m a shy girl, but I start to match who I am over text.

In person is where you can test how well you and this person can actually vibe outside your comfort zone, which in this case is behind a phone screen.

You can be whoever you want behind the screen, which is why a lot of cowards go on dating apps because they can hide, but you can’t hide your personality for much longer in person.

• Also, mentions of a date with no set plan in mind is just leading you on and trust me... men can lead you on and build a dream house for you to stay in if you allow them to just say date without an actual date planned.

Lesson 4: If someone comments negatively about your body, they’re insecure. RUN

• This speaks for itself, really. Even if they said it as a joke, RUN, because a joke is never really a joke when it comes from harm.

• Shut it down and leave… There will be more men out there, babes, trust there is someone for everyone, or whatever that saying goes.

Lesson 5: A person’s negative comment about you says more about them than you

• Mr.6 line tried so much to bring my self-image down, but I learned after that it was more about his insecurity than it was about mine. He felt unsafe in being short and not being in his ideal body, so he projected much of that onto me.

So, if a guy or the person you’re seeing says anything about your body that makes you feel bad, RUN, and also know that it’s themselves they’re saying that about.

Secure people do not comment on other people’s bodies because they mind their own and feel well-balanced in themselves.

Lesson 6: Beware of show-offs; they often lack what they are flaunting.

• If someone feels the need to be flashy, most of the time, they don’t have the thing they’re flashing about.

• He wanted me to see him as the cool sneakerhead who had it all, when in reality, he didn’t.

He returned every new sneaker he had.

Personally, I prefer someone who doesn’t show off with something they don't have.

I prefer them to show off with something they actually have.

He’d try to show off his singing talent, which I didn’t mind because that’s who he is.

But the sneakerhead who is big bossing with money? Yeah, that is not him for sure.

I like genuineness, and he lacked that. Maybe he wanted to manifest those sneakers in his life.

That’s cute, but it’s not for me. Someone else reconfirmed this lesson for me as well, which you will meet later. But the lesson here is that someone who is flashy is not for me.

The lesson here is to seek genuineness rather than someone who is being inauthentic about who they are at their core.

Lesson 7: If you don’t find the person attractive, do not waste their time or yours.

• I think this lesson went both ways. I didn’t find him attractive, but still went for it; he didn’t find me attractive either, but still went for it.

• Don’t waste their time or yours. My 6 months could’ve been wasted on other men who would’ve valued my beauty and taken me out, maybe even slut me out properly before a lockdown.

Time is precious; don't waste it on validation from someone who doesn’t even see your inner or outer beauty.

Lesson 8: DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS BECAUSE YOU ARE DESPERATE FOR LOVE

• As I reread this story in 2026 (I wrote this in 2023/24), something that stood out to me was that I wish I weren’t so desperate to be picked and loved by someone.

• Desperation will lead you to desperate places that end in self-abandonment.

• Yes, I loved being delusional even back then, but if the delusion is causing more harm than shits and giggles, please walk away because it will be toxic. Attention is only fun when you aren’t working hard for it from someone who’s a 1.5.

Lesson 9: Value yourself (cliche sigh), but value you more than you value the idea of a person.

• Because a horrible person will create negative images of you that you did not plan for yourself

Lesson 10: Do Not Allow Someone To Get You Out of Character

• Reading this back again today as I re-edit the shit out of this blog, I am more mature than I was the last time I added bullet point 6 to the list. All this to say, the worst was brought out of me. The girl I was with when he dragged me on (cause led on is when someone is leading you in kindness, this one was dragging me by the edges, girl) was not the girl I actually am.

• My character was tested with this man, and the way he made me lose my self-composure is not a way you should be brought out. If someone is triggering to the point you need to lash out, they’re getting you out of your character, boo, and you gotta go before you look back to see they broke your zen with their insecurity.

Overall, after him, I started developing some standards and discovering where my self-worth lay.

I didn’t find it yet in my past self, aka 20-year-old body, but I sure went looking for it… in other men.

Obviously, it was in other men because I absolutely had more lessons to come my way, and it sure as hell did hit me hard.

I hope my mini lessons and story have helped you in some way. Comment to let me know if you related to any of this advice!

Yours truly,

Marie-Anne